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Saturday, 20 November 2004
Review of 2004 Resolutions
Mood:  not sure
Now Playing: Enya
Time to review all those resolutions I made for the year 2004. I will try to offer as much insight on them as I can.

Going to go through them all in order. First on the list is "Drink no soda". Sounds straightforward and easy enough but it has been hard at times. I have succeeded in this one as I have drank no soda this year. I am really proud of myself for doing this. At different points throughout the year I have had cravings for a can or bottle of soda and it was tough at times to not get a drink, but I have made it the entire year. I have been debating with myself if this is something I want to continue with next year as well, or allow myself to have some soda, in moderation such as a 6-pack a month, or two months. I will let you know what my decision is when I post my entry with my resolutions for next year. One thing I should point out here, I feel that without soda I am a healthier person.



Next on my list was to "Eat no candy". This one was even tougher than avoiding soda. This one is a kinda toss-up as to if I passed it (though I am counting it as a pass). I did avoid candy, but sometimes when I got ice cream or cookies there were candy bits in it. But I did make an effort to avoid those when I could. I went trick-or-treating with a friend and her family, getting candy from different houses, which I left for my friend and her kids. Next year I hope to work on this more and will try even harder to avoid candy. I am mostly certain about how this resolution will work for next year, but you will just have to wait to see how it will be.



What can I say about number 3 "Lose Weight". I don't know if I passed or failed this one. At the start of the year I was not able to weight myself accurately on a scale since the highest that a scale went up to was 350 and I weigh more then that. I just checked my weight on that same scale a few weeks ago and I can still not get a weight off it so I am going to have to work harder this next year. I need to get my weight down. I would really like to get down to around 200 but I will settle for being able to tell my weight at all. This one will definitely continue into next year.



The next two are really tough to call. I'll start with number four "Do more things with other people". When the year started off I was not doing much, but I was at least doing a little. As the year went on I was doing more things and doing them in groups. Now though I am doing little if anything and if I do anything it seems to be by myself or with a very small group. And right now my desire to be with other people is almost non-existent. Will just have to wait on this one.



Now the really hard one "Go on at least one date this year". This one was a success and a total failure, all at the same time. I did go on many dates this year, and dated two different people. That is also where the failure comes in. I have now dated three people in my life. One was Jen about four years ago. She was also my first girlfriend. This relationship turned into a physical relationship. After that things went down an we broke up. The last time I talked with her she indicated that she did not want me in her life any more, and I haven't heard from her since (again, almost 4 years ago now). The next time I went on a date was earlier this year, 3 years after that first one. This was with Tonya. If you have read my previous blocs then you know a little about that. Tonya has as well had little or no contact with me and has even moved out of the apartment complex (though this had to do with money and job issues, not with me). Before she moved I only talked with her if we saw each other. After she moved I have heard nothing from her. 2-for-2. Then came Cat. We dated, we became boyfriend/girlfriend, she moved in with me for a bit, then things went downhill. We attended the Psi Phi Reunion together. After we got back we broke up. I am still not certain why we broke up, though I am sure I did something wrong. Since then she doesn't seem to want to talk or do anything with me, though in the last week or so it has gotten a little better. She has sent me a couple text messages and invited me to go with her and a friend to the bowling alley to watch people bowl. Not much else though. It would seem that I am looking at 3-for-3 (date 3 people and have 3 people never want me in their lives again). So now I am looking at next year on this one and wondering if I want to make a new resolution concerning dating. I will continue to debate this and will get back to everyone when I do post for next year.



Well, that sums up the resolutions for 2004. 4 that were a success, 1 of which I probably shouldn't have made, and 1 that is unknown. Right now I am thinking of about 5 to 7 resolutions for next year. Please let me know what you think about this. All comments are accepted. See you next time.

Posted by simkus at 11:10 AM EST
Updated: Saturday, 20 November 2004 11:11 AM EST

Sunday, 21 November 2004 - 8:57 PM EST

Name: Lyz

I think you're being too hard on yourself about Cat. The impression I got from her (no offense) was that she was rather heavily embedded into the typical, stereotypical role of her gender and couldn't overcome that. For example, the "I can throw things at you but you can't throw them back at me" phenomonon that I observed at the Quad concert - you were acting entirely rationally, but there was a double standard in place. I don't think it had anythign to do with you.

About the resolutions: I could never go for a year without candy, and I think it'd even be pretty hard to go without soda. You're amazing.

Go on a date: not a bad resolution: see above commentary.
Lose weight: I approve of the idea, and it seems like you're going about it the right way. Keep up the good work.
Do more things with other people: if you do things with people and it makes you miserable, then stop. If you're really happier alone, that's fine. Look at DavidH.

I think you're doing fine. In your shoes, I wouldn't lay down so many resolutions as to make me miserable, so be careful with that, but otherwise I think you're doing a great job. I have given up on resolutions, I guess just because I've never taken them seriously enough.

Sunday, 21 November 2004 - 9:14 PM EST

Name: simkus

There were many things that Cat and I did not agree on. One of those was change. She didn't like big changes in a person. She told me a few times that if I colored my hair (like I did last year), or cut it off, or something like that then she wouldn't be around me much until it grew back the way it was. There were other things as well. In talking with other people I have come to the conclusion that Cat and I were not meant to be together, nor would it have ever worked, we are just too different. But, that doesn't mean that I shouldn't feel bad for my part in the breakup. I have been around women my entire life, at school, in work, in general. I have heard ALL the horror stories about how guys are and the things that they do to hurt women. I never want to be like that. When I see that women I have dated never want to be around me ever again (not talking about Cat here, but the rest) and it is because of the things that I have done then it makes it very hard for me to want to date anymore.
I would like to do more things with people, I realyl would, but I don't know the places to go and have no one to go with me anywhere anyways.

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